Want to know how to be a better lover? When you’re in a relationship, it feels like your partner is supposed to be your everything. But, as much as you want them all the time, sometimes they just aren’t available when you need them. That’s where reading this article comes in handy. We’ll show you how to be a better lover without even knowing it!

Stop thinking of sex as something that happens once in a while.

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If you’re like most people, sex is something that happens once in a while. You may have the occasional hookup where the sex is good and then disappear again until the next time you’re feeling horny. Or maybe it’s just not happening at all because of some reason or another—maybe there isn’t enough chemistry between you and your partner; maybe they find this kind of thing gross; maybe they don’t want to have sex with someone who’s already been taken by another person (or group); whatever the reason is, people tend to get stuck in this cycle of having no desire for intimacy because they feel bored with their partners after a while.

The problem here isn’t just boredom; it’s also that we’ve gotten into a habit where we think our needs aren’t important enough—not only do I need someone physically attractive but also mentally stimulating too! And if I’m getting bored…well then clearly I’m not really interested anything else either.”

Be more spontaneous throughout the day.

Take a walk together, have a picnic at your favorite park, go for a drive in the country, or take a scenic route with some stops along the way.

Do something fun and adventurous—like zip-lining! Or canoeing! Or hiking on trails that lead through forests and up mountainsides…or maybe even taking boats out onto lakes (if you live near one). Whatever appeals to both of you will be perfect for this kind of spontaneous activity!

Surprise each other with little gifts.

A little surprise is always welcome, but if you want to get more creative, think about what they might like and then buy it for them. Don’t expect anything in return—it’s not about who gives more, it’s just an expression of love!

Don’t be afraid to make the first move.

While it’s common for people to think that they should wait until their partner initiates sex, there are many reasons you might want to take charge and make things happen on your own. One reason is that it can be more fun this way—and not just because there’s less pressure!

 If your partner has been giving off signals all day (or even just during dinner), then seeing them eagerly anticipating what comes next will turn them on even more than if they were expecting something romantic from you. Plus, if your relationship isn’t on track yet but both of you still care about each other deeply enough that neither one wants it ending yet? Then why not try something new together?

Learn to communicate in bed.

Communication is the key to a good relationship, but how do you know if your partner is communicating with you? Communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about listening and responding. If a woman can’t tell when her partner is upset or happy, then she’ll never be able to figure out what makes him feel loved and appreciated. She may think that he doesn’t care about her as much anymore because he doesn’t respond to all of her texts or calls every night.

Or maybe she thinks that he’s tired when she asks him how his day was at work (because no one likes hearing “it sucked,” especially not in bed). If there are problems in your sex life or if things seem tense between the two of you lately, it might be time for some communication!

Tell each other what you like and what you don’t like.

You might be surprised to learn that your partner’s sexual preferences are not always the same as yours. Suggestions and advice can help you navigate a new area of interest, but it’s important to remember that this isn’t just about what makes you happy—it’s also about what makes your partner happy. If they’re uncomfortable with something, don’t force them into doing something they don’t want to do just because you think it’ll make sex better for both of us!

Learn to take no for an answer gracefully, and don’t take it personally when your partner says no for whatever reason.

Don’t push your partner into doing something that they aren’t comfortable with just because you want them to do it.

If you feel like a part of your relationship is missing without sex, talk about it with each other. See if there’s anything we can do about the situation. Maybe we could find some friends who would be willing to help us out!

Learn about each other’s love languages and how to speak them effectively.

One of the best ways to show someone you care about them is by speaking their love language. This can be as simple as saying “I love you”. Or it could be a more complex act of communication using words and gestures that speak directly to the heart of your partner.

Asking each other what makes them feel loved will help you understand each other’s needs better. Which will make it easier for both parties in a relationship (or marriage) to communicate effectively when they’re trying to understand why each other feels the way they do about certain situations or events. 

The key here is understanding each other’s emotional makeup before attempting any sort of change in your relationship; otherwise, it could lead only one person feeling like an outsider within their own home!

Small changes can make a big difference in your sex life

 Change is the only constant, so why not start making some small changes today?

Small changes are easy to make every day and don’t take much effort or money upfront. They’re also more likely to stick than larger ones because they require fewer commitments from both of you. And maybe even no commitment at all.


There you have it. The list of the most important things to know if you want to be a better lover. I hope you found something on the list that will help you, even if it’s just one small thing. Remember that practice makes perfect, so don’t give up!

If there is anything else we missed or any other tips please let us know in the comments below. We love hearing from our readers!

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